I (24F) just found out I’m pregnant (5 weeks along) and when I told the father he said to terminate. I didn’t grow up religious but decided to explore my faith at the beginning of this year. I know this is my fault and I feel so ashamed, but I would never forgive myself if I didn’t bring my baby into the world. I’m also financially capable of taking care of the baby.
I posted a few days ago on other threads about my story and some users completely tore me apart saying I should terminate because I would be a single mom and no one will ever love me. They said if I don’t give the father what he wants I’m a bad person and forcing a child on him.
I talked to my ministry and they said I should rely on my love to and from Jesus.
I guess I’m wondering if any of this is true, would I be a bad person? Will I never be loved? How do I deal with the guilt and shame?
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Even though the circumstances of their conception were not ideal, your baby is not the sin. Right now there is a beautiful baby being hand-knit together inside you by God, and that baby is valued. Just as importantly – you are valued too.
Your ministry is right that turning to Jesus is the first step, He is where you will find forgiveness for the past, comfort for the present, and strength for what’s ahead. But I hope they offered you more than platitudes? Do they have any support services for you? Any practical help?
It is not true that as a single mother you will never be loved, and I am so sorry you were told this. I know several stories of babies who were conceived either before coming to Christ, or in a moment or weakness or sin during a faith journey, and God redeems the story. He brings supportive community, faithful fathers, loving friends, or all of the above. He makes all things new.
It’s not an easy journey, but from one Mum to another, parenthood and sacrifice aren’t easy for anyone. You can do this. I’ll be praying for you lovely 🙂